Depriving Me of a Loving Relationship with my only Grandchild
I'm 72 and have been dealing with migraines for probably 35 years. When my grandson was born 12 years ago, I was having migraines almost every day which kept me home in bed. My grandson's father, my son, does not believe they affect me like they have and still do. I missed most of my grandson's growing up stage and so we don't have a close relationship which is so hurtful to me. I think my son resents me for this absence in his only child's life. I have guilt, and more guilt!!!
Oh, my heart is so heavy for you. I wish I could give you a hug. The guilt is understandable, but being sick is not and was never your fault. It's so hard for people to accept an illness they can't see. And it can be especially hard for kids. Have you ever had an open conversation with your son about this? If he's still not understanding, maybe he would be willing to go with you to a doctor's appointment to hear the reality of migraine from a professional. Or if you're not sure how to have a conversation about it in a healthy way, maybe a family therapist could help one or all of you work through your feelings. We're not professionals here, but we'll listen. Take care of yourself. -Melissa, team member
